I was lying in bed, looking through Netflix, trying to decide what to watch. There were numerous films, shows and documentaries on my list but nothing really tickled my fancy until I came across a film called ‘Deck the Halls’. A Christmas film (obviously), starring Danny DeVito, Matthew Broderick and Kristin Davis. I had almost hit play when I thought to myself, “I can’t watch this yet, it’s too early for a Christmas film.”
Just as I had finished that thought, I remembered some notes I had taken earlier that day which fit perfectly to the thought I had just finished thinking: Why are we constantly restricting ourselves?
We do it all the time. “It’s too early to get excited for Halloween/Christmas” is something I hear and read basically every single day from the 1st of September until about mid-October (for the former) and for much longer for the latter. We’re not soaking up all the seasonal goodness – golden leaves, sickly sweet drinks in red cups, decorating our bedrooms with spiders, cobwebs and then holly and tinsel – because we restrict our excitement because… well, why exactly?
I do agree to a certain extent because getting into the festive spirit too early on might ruin it for you – after all, celebrating Christmas for three months could be seen as a bit extreme. But then again, if one stormy night in October you feel like watching Elf and making a peppermint hot chocolate with whipped cream and mini marshmallows on top – why don’t you?
A similar observation goes for openly gushing over our favourite artists, films, books and characters. Have you ever listened to someone excitedly telling you about a concert they went to, about finally having seen their all-time favourite musician live and in colour, listening to all the songs they would normally listen to in their bedroom, feeling like that musician was singing the lyrics just for them, only for that sparkle in their eyes to die whilst they look at the floor shyly and say, “Oh, but nevermind, this is probably boring for you to listen to.”
Next time someone says something like this to you, I dare you to look them straight into their sparkly eyes and encourage them to continue sharing that feeling of bliss and pure joy with you.
And whilst we’re at it – do the same for your friends and family.
Support them like a proper fan girl/boy/person. Shout their achievements all over social media, shout their achievements at everyone you meet and be supportive and proud of everything they do. Not only will this encourage them to keep going and to see the value of their successes but it will keep your own enthusiasm alive. The capability of being happy for other people. It will keep the box in your heart open that says, “Happiness from other people’s happiness” because really, there’s no truer form of happiness than that taken from your loved ones’ smiles.
So, next time you want to go ahead and restrict your emotions when you’re talking about something you’re passionate about; next time you see someone doing it to themselves – don’t let it happen.
’til then x
Oh, and P.S. The film was great.